Domestic Partnership

Laura and I are officially domestic partners now with my new name change.  Once I get my gender designation changed however, we'll probably have to get legally married.  I don't want to give the impression that we don't want to get legally married.  We do.  We don't like the idea that we'll "have" to get married in order for me to continue to get benefits etc.  It just seems very backwards to us that because I could be legally diagnosed with a mental disorder, all of a sudden two people who are biologically female can get married in a state with a Defense of Marriage Act in place.